LOVE WAN TITI: Dipo Tepede.POeT

By Dipo Tepede, 3 years and 5 months ago

LOVE WAN TITI

Average time to read3:53 minutes aprox.

«For love is as strong as death!

Many waters cannot quench love; neither can the floods drown it: If a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.»

My first love; I remember her very vividly as the first day I saw her conjure the exact image of her beautiful light toe to her neatly tucked-in hair bouncing across her shoulder with a regal grace. She was the only one visible amongst one thousand females in Amphi. My heart wandered on; it was beating so fast that I lost count of the rhythm. How I wish I could take a picture of myself then so that I can be sure I was the one with this erratic behavior. But as days go by, weeks draw near and months crawled on with my thoughts filled with her ravishing face, my heart longed to experience her presence and my eyes popped to her magnificent figure. I hoped this feeling will never wane. Oh was I wrong!

Love is a subject that often attracts the greatest attention from the fully convicted atheist to the adept believer. It is a universal language that transcends all culture, race and country. It is actually the theme of the best selling movies to the best selling music. What ever the event is, if you integrate love, you will always be on point. I wonder if that is why I am writing this article to attract you to read it but I guess not. This is because it is a very difficult subject to broach. I actually don't like writing about love may be because it has become very complicated or it is difficult to define but I like to improve the lives of my fellow humans so was I moved when people are affected by this love syndrome experienced in relationships especially between man and woman ( apologies to gays).

Here is a story, to set you on;Yinka – a female – is confused about her 3 months relationship. She is not sure of the future because Emeka seems to be acting inconsistently. He gives excuses whenever she asked him over to her apartment and she is scared if there is any future between the both of them. She sees all the barriers ahead of her; he is not from the same ethnic group; he likes partying; he likes alcohol; he talks of not settling down soon. This thought has almost consumed her that she decided to talk to someone to lighten this burden weighing on her. Well she talked to me and below describes our conversation; which she permitted me to print, hope it helps you;

ME: How is Emeka?

Yinka: I have not seen him for the past three days

ME: Has he called you?

Yinka: I am beginning to think he is involved with another girl

ME: Why the thought? Is it an intuition?

Yinka: I saw a funny text on his phone so I've just being wondering

ME: give me a summary

Yinka: just a funny text and something like «I still love u» he was actually reading it in front of me

ME: ok

Yinka: I've just being thinking about what will happen if it doesn't work out eventually

ME: I don't think that is the issue

Yinka: so what do u think the issue is?

ME: the issue is not about it working out but if you trust him
Yinka: that exactly is the problem «TRUST»

ME: Well, I have to ask some personal question if you don't mind; this will give me a clearer picture of the issue

Yinka: hmmmmmmmm, like, ok shoot.

The personal questions and answers were edited because every one is different in this stead.

ME: Tell me about yourself; your believes and values

ME: Tell me about yourself; your believes and values

Yinka: Another problem is that he likes partying and drinking; there is no party in town that he does not attend; this can so piss me off.

ME: that's not the real problem

Yinka: oh really; I think a guy should have a sense of responsibility at least

ME: sense of responsibility is a perspective issue

Yinka: alright

ME: do you like yourself and really want to be happy?

Yinka: Yes now; yes

ME: Please, answer my questions

Yinka: Alright

ME: How many relationships have you had?

Yinka: 3 serious ones

ME: Do you consider Emeka a serious relationship

Yinka: to some extent yes but it could be better

ME: What attracted you to him?

Yinka: I enjoy his company and it was a long time I dated someone; he actually came at a time I needed someone

ME: from the personal story you have told me, he loves you.

Yinka: Well, I have been bad sha

ME: We must ascertain if you love him

Yinka: Love is a strong word

ME: Love is not a noun but a verb – Love is not very strong, it is what you make of it.

Yinka: OK

ME: U are actually the issue here not him

Yinka: Really

ME: You have half your heart in the relationship and you want it to work

Yinka: Putting everything in it is scary; what if it does not work? I will now be heart broken

ME: Any which way your heart will be broken; you are worried about the heart being broken when you are already broken with worry.

Well, I think this is where I will stop for now and continue in my subsequent post. Relationship gets complicated because of the definitions we give to love. We even worry over the problems we cause. We always look at the wrong things instead of the important things.

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6 comments

#6. Dipo Akin Tepede
3 years and 5 months ago

@ Nike

I am considering your opinion very seriously but it still does not rythm with the principle. I will definitely write about this ASAP!

Please, check it out!

#5. Nike
3 years and 5 months ago

Hi Dipo,
I'm sorry I was a little too forward there, what I'm trying to say is the men in Naija are nice, but here in the US it seems sistas have to guard their hearts a little more. I'm not saying your happiness depends on a man, I'm simply saying there are many players out there and it's important to make sure the object of your affection is actually a faithful man, and not a player.
I think a lot of good men look at it from their perspective and wonder why women say all men are bad, not all men are bad but it's important to guard your heart in every situation.
I'm not saying my or any other woman's happiness depends on the love a man showers, I'm just saying be sure his motives are right before you put your whole heart it. I'm not implying anything, all I'm saying is a broken heart may mend, but sometimes the scars remain.

#4. Dipo Akin Tepede
3 years and 5 months ago

Wow Nike,

Thank you very much for that insight!

You mean you have to wait for a man to love you before you love the man?

You mean your happiness depends on the love a man showers to you?

Your decision to love a man is based on the love he first showed you?

Are you implying that Man and woman is different in love issues but not different in right issues?

Some women claim rights to everything this days and fail to take responsibility for their happiness. Na waoooo. Come to think of it, I have not finished the story.

Let me just let you ponder on this scripture; God made man; male and female He made them.

#3. Nike
3 years and 5 months ago

I meant Yinka not Funmi, my bad...

#2. Nike
3 years and 5 months ago

Dipo,
You're a guy and I don't know why you're telling the girl to put her whole heart in, cearly Emeka is not fully into it either, as I always like to say, God so loved us «first» and gave his only begotten son for us, and so now we love Him. The man gives first, you don't put your whole heart in and give all of yourself to someone who doesn't appreciate you, that's simply a recipe for heartbreak.
She either loves him or she doesn't, she either trusts him or she doesn't, actually it sounds like she doesn't trust him but she likes him a lot. My personal opinion is that he sound's like a guy about town and she want's to settle down, «how can 2 walk together except they agree?» I ask you my brother? Funmi, like the book says «he's not that into you»!

#1. Modupe Oshingbemi
3 years and 5 months ago

LOVE WAN TITI
This story sounds really familiar and i was beginning to think you were actually talking about me. I look forward to the conclusion of this very article/story in order to contribute and learn from it.
You have acutally inspired me!

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