You just describe me when u said, «you are not wired to be closed, you chose to be closed because you are afraid of the outcome of being open.» It's hard, to bare ur feelings to a guy, at least for me, until i know for sure the guy is really feeling me too.
It is difficult to love someone u don't trust. Even though u may have strong feelings towards him, u can't love him completely.

Excellent post as usual. Learnt a lot from it.

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Noted.

@ Kehinde

Thanx for the comment.

Talking is not the same as being open.

Being open is telling the guy how you feel about things (taken him into the picture). Not just talking. Its about communicating which means you allow the man understand where you are coming from.

You know your man better than anybody so you when he is serious about things and when info could properly be relayed to him.

For example, I enjoy watching films. If I am in the middle of a film, it will be difficult to communicate with me even if I pause the film to listen to you, I will never listen to you with full attention. My mind is on that film.

You should know the best time to communicate with your man.

it's a very nice write up and im very sure lots of women out there will gain from it.Thanks

This is really nice but i feel women are more open than men in relationships. women communicates better than men and im sure that's one of the reasons why men feels women talk too much.

Thanx Azuka

I am proud of my people toooooooo

Hi,

You write really well. I'm always happy to meet up with other writers on the web -- especially Nigerians. We've got a lot of talent.