...I have re read the comments and I have to ask ...
whan you refer to relationship what are we talkin about?? married or dating.

2) What is this Love you are all talkin about??

What is love?? cos correct me if I am wrong...it sounds like you are referin to Lust or infatuations.

Love is not a feeling it is a choice!

please help??
Who are this FEMALES you are talkin about cos I am one and I do not see any of the in my life or female friends I know?
Is this cultural ...as in Nigeria alone or the rest of the world??

Oga Dipo, see i've read ur article again and i'm commenting on it again. So from what i've read, i need to be more open about my feelings, without being afraid of the consequences or of rejection. I don't think i'm self centered or am i? Since u know me. Okay, what do u suggest that i do in the situation i blogged about?

@ Gift

Thanx for the comment.

@ TLOASCM

Very excellent point; will think about it seriously!

@ Uchenna

If I take a look at your suggestion from a male perspective; I will begin to wonder how many times men have been toyed with for showing their emotions. I really dont think it is about the negative reactions to the principles stated in the write-up but what will prevent you from being hurt in a relationship.

my dear dont even blame women for anything first and foremost our culture in africa does not permit a woman to say most of what she feels but i know you wil be saying we have passed that stage yes i agree with you.men tend to toy with women who show their emotions,they have this thing about oh she really loves me so i can do anything and get away with it.like my man game said u cannot just tell a woman that you love her but you have to prove yourself.so men especially nigerian men please try and treat us like your equal and not just a piece of furniture that can be bought over with gifts we are not that feeble minded.

But if we have the opposite of what you have written, we are seen as ladies with opened eyes and men use that as an excuse.

But as usual a very deep insight on what it is we as women require. Very well written.

i had a brighter day tday becos i stumbled upon ur site. i hope u sleep better knowing that i felt like i had eventually found smth i had ben lookin for for so long. but, there is a but. i think u shd employ d services of someone to proof read ur essays b4 publishing as it is my guess dat u are too bizy to do dat.also, d essay! i agree with u to a point so let's say that i'd revist this page and try read it with an open-er mind. but i'd have expected u write from a guy's perspctive for guys and let a woman who's an authority in dis matter do same. but however, no misgivings

@ Modupe

Thanx for the comment.

Just some few corrections;

1) I never said women are to blame for the failure in a relationship.

2) I never said you should keep loving someone who rejects you.

The article above informs women to arm themselves with the following principles to prevent them from getting hurt in any given relationship. It is not about women being wrong but about the wrong perception they bring to the relationship.

I am writing to women because they seem to be the most hit and worried when it comes to relationship and they normally discuss this issue with me.

I hope you are ok with these explanations, if not let me know .........

Hi,

I love your writeups and i must confess that they are really inspiring. However I sometimes 1der why you think it is only women that should be blame for a failed relationship. You cannot keep loving someone who rejects you simply bcos you want a relationship to work. I think you should write an article on what men are doing to contribute to the failure in a relationship so that we can all learn from it. Except if you are saying that your articles are basically for women consuption thank you.

Hi Bijou,

Thanx for visiting!

The seven reasons I gave above are quite difficult to follow but they are necessary principles to your happiness.

If I you hate taking injection but you need it to cure your illness, you just have to take it despite the difficulty.

I will advise you to start with opening up to those you are comfortable with, you may get hurt, but you will inculcate a virtue called «courage».