Comments on: 7 REASONS WHY FEMALES GET HURT IN RELATIONSHIP http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/ words to provoke your thought........... Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:45:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: OLUATA OLUWAGBENGA DARE http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-253547 OLUATA OLUWAGBENGA DARE Tue, 08 Sep 2009 04:25:09 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-253547 Reavealing & Inspiring Reavealing & Inspiring

]]> By: Mercedes http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-250059 Mercedes Tue, 14 Jul 2009 09:37:33 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-250059 Dipo, u definitely have made points in this your write up and I ask God to always give you the wisdom to write and educate us more. But, most times, men also enter a relationship with a wrong intention. they do just for the fun of it. Ive seen a man who kept raising his voice to a girl to come spend the nite in his house just in the form of his "girlfriend" knowing his house. Again, a contact in his phone book with "Uche Luv" and for decades, he refused to explain to his girlfriend(still new) who the uche is.He was dumb and decided to create a distance bw he and the new girlfriend. Now, tell me is it any fault of the girl to ask? or to also mind her biz? Also, ive seen a scenerio where a friends(married man and single girl) grew to be good friends and cos of their decent and open rship, the guy fell so much in love with the girl and has proposed to her to be his 2nd wife. this he made as a statement, "I really want you in my life. you are a rare gem". the girl in the open friendly plantonic rship, she was so committed cos he is naturally a nice individual. Dipo, things about love is so complicated that only God will forever direct us. Amen Dipo, u definitely have made points in this your write up and I ask God to always give you the wisdom to write and educate us more.
But, most times, men also enter a relationship with a wrong intention. they do just for the fun of it. Ive seen a man who kept raising his voice to a girl to come spend the nite in his house just in the form of his «girlfriend» knowing his house. Again, a contact in his phone book with «Uche Luv» and for decades, he refused to explain to his girlfriend(still new) who the uche is.He was dumb and decided to create a distance bw he and the new girlfriend. Now, tell me is it any fault of the girl to ask? or to also mind her biz?
Also, ive seen a scenerio where a friends(married man and single girl) grew to be good friends and cos of their decent and open rship, the guy fell so much in love with the girl and has proposed to her to be his 2nd wife. this he made as a statement, «I really want you in my life. you are a rare gem». the girl in the open friendly plantonic rship, she was so committed cos he is naturally a nice individual.
Dipo, things about love is so complicated that only God will forever direct us. Amen

]]> By: patricia http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-249920 patricia Sat, 11 Jul 2009 09:36:11 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-249920 What of a situation whereby your guy does not care a bit about you? pls defferentiat love and infatuation for me, does love at the first sight exist? What of a situation whereby your guy does not care a bit about you? pls defferentiat love and infatuation for me, does love at the first sight exist?

]]> By: Ayo http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-249681 Ayo Wed, 08 Jul 2009 08:51:01 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-249681 54 comments? Dipo why dont you add more of "THE LOVE WANTINTIN THINGY" in your write ups. This seems to be a thing of interest...lol Back to topic, the self centered thingy is true o, about 90% of ladies are so guilty jare... if only we can stop the constant complaint and nagging and understand clearly that our happiness and fulfilment can never be with a certain guy... 54 comments?
Dipo why dont you add more of «THE LOVE WANTINTIN THINGY» in your write ups.
This seems to be a thing of interest...lol

Back to topic, the self centered thingy is true o, about 90% of ladies are so guilty jare... if only we can stop the constant complaint and nagging and understand clearly that our happiness and fulfilment can never be with a certain guy...

]]> By: BIODUN http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-223213 BIODUN Mon, 24 Nov 2008 10:06:01 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-223213 GOOD DAY SIR, IT'S BEEN LONG SINCE I REPLIED YOU GUYS, BUT IT'S ALL GOOD. THE ARCHIEVES IS TIGHT AND WISH TO SEE MORE OF THIS ON MY MAIL BOX. AM ALSO HAVING A CHALLENGE WHICH I BELIEVE YOU CAN HELP ME SOLVE. AM A GUY OF 19YRS OF AGE AND I HAVETHIS BELIEVE THAT AM MEANT TO BE CELEBRATED AT MY YOUNG AGE. I BELIEVE I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST THAT STRENGHTENS ME BUT I'VE FLAIRE FOR MODELLING AND TO BE A POET BUT DON'T KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT IT. PLS HELP ME OUT. I BELIEVE IN YOU GOOD DAY SIR,
IT'S BEEN LONG SINCE I REPLIED YOU GUYS, BUT IT'S ALL GOOD. THE ARCHIEVES IS TIGHT AND WISH TO SEE MORE OF THIS ON MY MAIL BOX.
AM ALSO HAVING A CHALLENGE WHICH I BELIEVE YOU CAN HELP ME SOLVE. AM A GUY OF 19YRS OF AGE AND I HAVETHIS BELIEVE THAT AM MEANT TO BE CELEBRATED AT MY YOUNG AGE. I BELIEVE I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST THAT STRENGHTENS ME BUT I'VE FLAIRE FOR MODELLING AND TO BE A POET BUT DON'T KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT IT. PLS HELP ME OUT. I BELIEVE IN YOU

]]> By: folake http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-213923 folake Thu, 18 Sep 2008 17:51:56 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-213923 the story is very interesting and all u said it's true. Most ladies of now and days enta into relationship justbecos of wat they can get and not wat they can give. Not having at the back of their mind that relationship is like a bank account dat u can just withdrawing without puting money there. But again to be sincere with oursef again Nigerian guys are not ready 4 commitment the story is very interesting and all u said it's true. Most ladies of now and days enta into relationship justbecos of wat they can get and not wat they can give. Not having at the back of their mind that relationship is like a bank account dat u can just withdrawing without puting money there. But again to be sincere with oursef again Nigerian guys are not ready 4 commitment

]]> By: aladelomo http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-213757 aladelomo Mon, 15 Sep 2008 10:06:44 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-213757 I like this writeup of urs and to be frank with u it is what is happening in our society especially NIGERIA. most ladies enter into a relationship for thier own gains alone not considering that of the other party and I BELIEVE HAD THEY PUT Theirselves in the MAN'S shoes would they still have reason the way they did right from the very onset? I like this writeup of urs and to be frank with u it is what is happening in our society especially NIGERIA. most ladies enter into a relationship for thier own gains alone not considering that of the other party and I BELIEVE HAD THEY PUT Theirselves in the MAN'S shoes would they still have reason the way they did right from the very onset?

]]> By: Angel http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-166047 Angel Fri, 04 Apr 2008 11:58:11 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-166047 Ur rite but i dont support a man beating a woman no matter what she does. Remember a man shld have self control. A man with out self control is like a city with out walls anything goes Ur rite but i dont support a man beating a woman no matter what she does. Remember a man shld have self control. A man with out self control is like a city
with out walls anything goes

]]> By: Adeg http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-111088 Adeg Wed, 02 Jan 2008 13:47:43 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-111088 @Yetty Why not try www.nairaland.com to post your story and people will respond to it with useful advices you may find helpful. @Yetty
Why not try http://www.nairaland.com to post your story and people will respond to it with useful advices you may find helpful.

]]> By: Dipo Akin Tepede http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-100789 Dipo Akin Tepede Sat, 08 Dec 2007 15:26:53 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-100789 @ Seun Thanx for the comment! I do not subscribe to violence of any form whether toward a female or towards a man. My main discuss was for the lady to acknowledge her responsibility. I believe every society has its pros and cons; sueing at every instance does not warant a good society. The moral structure of Nigeria is a more solid platform than any where in the world. I believe we should appreciate the moral structure and I really do appreciate your comment. @ Seun

Thanx for the comment!

I do not subscribe to violence of any form whether toward a female or towards a man. My main discuss was for the lady to acknowledge her responsibility.

I believe every society has its pros and cons; sueing at every instance does not warant a good society. The moral structure of Nigeria is a more solid platform than any where in the world.

I believe we should appreciate the moral structure and I really do appreciate your comment.

]]> By: seun http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-100764 seun Sat, 08 Dec 2007 14:46:51 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-100764 hi dipo.nice write up. u made some points.. however, i do not agree with the idea that a lady should be slapped by her partner be cause she did something very offensive.i feel hitting a woman is wrong ..no matter the offence(except maybe she's an assasin and u are hitting her in self defence!haha) )....i really feel bad when i hear people discussing about wife battering and the first thing the guy says is 'what did she do'..then later he says'that served her right' first and foremost.there is no relationship without CONFLICT, it's how you handle the conflict that matters...so the issue of physical abuse being justified by conflict/ bad behaviour by the partner ,doesnt go down well with me... secondly, let's just imagine that the same woman is his boss at work(and not his lover)NO MATTER HOW MUCH SHE OFFENDS HIM HE PROBABLY WILL NEVER EVER raise his hand to hit her.. because he's trying to keep his his job... what am i trying to say..two people can treat u in the same annoying way, your boss and your lover..A GUY WOULD NEVER HIT HIS BOSS..but 'in our society' it seems ok and even 'macho' to hit ur girlfriend or lover' if she deserves it' it's all about self control and not what anyone does to u....CONFLICTS ALWAYS COME IT IS HOW U HANDLE IT THAT MATTERS. no guy should be patted on the back for beating up his wife..there are more sensible and mature ways to handle relationship issues .. it's pity, we dont 'sue' so much in Nigeria.....if not some men would be in jail by now, for almost killing their partners, BECAUSE OF LACK OF SELF CONTROL! hi dipo.nice write up.
u made some points..
however, i do not agree with the idea that a lady should be slapped by her partner be
cause she did something very offensive.i feel hitting a woman is wrong ..no matter
the offence(except maybe she's an assasin and u are hitting her in self defence!haha)
)....i really feel bad when i hear people discussing about wife battering and the first
thing the guy says is 'what did she do'..then later he says'that served her right'

first and foremost.there is no relationship without CONFLICT, it's how you handle
the conflict that matters...so the issue of physical abuse being justified by conflict/
bad behaviour by the partner ,doesnt go down well with me...
secondly, let's just imagine that the same woman is his boss at work(and not his lover)NO MATTER HOW MUCH SHE OFFENDS HIM HE PROBABLY WILL NEVER EVER raise his hand to hit
her.. because he's trying to keep his his job...
what am i trying to say..two people can treat u in the same annoying way, your boss
and your lover..A GUY WOULD NEVER HIT HIS BOSS..but 'in our society' it seems ok
and even 'macho' to hit ur girlfriend or lover' if she deserves it'
it's all about self control and not what anyone does to u....CONFLICTS ALWAYS COME
IT IS HOW U HANDLE IT THAT MATTERS.
no guy should be patted on the back for beating up his wife..there are more sensible
and mature ways to handle relationship issues ..
it's pity, we dont 'sue' so much in Nigeria.....if not some men would be in jail by now,
for almost killing their partners, BECAUSE OF LACK OF SELF CONTROL!

]]> By: yetty http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-85524 yetty Tue, 06 Nov 2007 16:31:26 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-85524 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ I am a young girl in my middle twenties. I am kind of facing some challenges about marriage. My mother wants me to get marry as early as possible. Mostly to a guy I brought, though I brought the guy home to show them but now and kind of confused. I am not sure am in love with in him anymore. My mother said maybe because we have been dating for almost two years then that is why I am fed up of the relationship. I have sat myself down several times to understand why I don't love him anymore but I can't just say. Though he is a nice and caring guy but he gets angry easily, mostly he doesn't take to my advice, we really don't have conversation together, he wants to be around me all the time and he English is poor. I just meet a guy, though we have been friends for some years now but not too close. I fall in love with him. The question is it the new guy that made me realize I don't love this guy or is it natural. I am confused, my mother wants me to get marry to the 1st guy next year. But I really don't want to but she never allows me rest in the house to the existence of her calling the other not to ruin her daughter's life. Please I need a motherly advice do I go on with the wedding or what? Thanks ------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I am a young girl in my middle twenties. I am kind of facing some challenges about marriage. My mother wants me to get marry as early as possible. Mostly to a guy I brought, though I brought the guy home to show them but now and kind of confused. I am not sure am in love with in him anymore. My mother said maybe because we have been dating for almost two years then that is why I am fed up of the relationship. I have sat myself down several times to understand why I don't love him anymore but I can't just say. Though he is a nice and caring guy but he gets angry easily, mostly he doesn't take to my advice, we really don't have conversation together, he wants to be around me all the time and he English is poor.
I just meet a guy, though we have been friends for some years now but not too close. I fall in love with him.
The question is it the new guy that made me realize I don't love this guy or is it natural. I am confused, my mother wants me to get marry to the 1st guy next year. But I really don't want to but she never allows me rest in the house to the existence of her calling the other not to ruin her daughter's life.

Please I need a motherly advice do I go on with the wedding or what?
Thanks

]]> By: Dipo Akin Tepede http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-76948 Dipo Akin Tepede Tue, 16 Oct 2007 08:48:24 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-76948 @ Mimmy I read your submission and I agree with you whole heartedly but from your story, you said the guy does not want to travel but he did not say he did not want to marry you. Marriage is a choice between you and him; do not allow family pressure get in the way. I am sure if both of you are willing to take the win-win approach, you could easily solve this. Remeber: more issues like this would come up when you eventually get married. @ Mimmy

I read your submission and I agree with you whole heartedly but from your story, you said the guy does not want to travel but he did not say he did not want to marry you.

Marriage is a choice between you and him; do not allow family pressure get in the way.

I am sure if both of you are willing to take the win-win approach, you could easily solve this.

Remeber: more issues like this would come up when you eventually get married.

]]> By: Mimmy http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-76944 Mimmy Tue, 16 Oct 2007 08:04:05 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-76944 I read the story and i certainly would not be quick to say that women are to be blamed. Sometimes, like the bible says the heart of man (male/female)can be desperately wicked. What do a female do when a guy she stood by for 6 years suddenly wakes up to tell you that the family just realised that they cannot go ahead with the wedding plans because they dont feel like traveling outside of Lagos? I mean this is a guy who has been faithful to a relationship ffor 6years? This is someone who cannot take a decision except she agrees and practically do everything with the lady in question making the lady to sacrifice everything she has even to the point of loosing teeth via an accident on her way back from giving financial assistance to the supposed man of her dreams? Would you say she is not committed to the relationship? For all these i would just say something it takes the grace of God and i still stand by what the bible has written and believe that it is only God that can give any man/woman the relationship that would bring peace that only God himself can give. I read the story and i certainly would not be quick to say that women are to be blamed. Sometimes, like the bible says the heart of man (male/female)can be desperately wicked. What do a female do when a guy she stood by for 6 years suddenly wakes up to tell you that the family just realised that they cannot go ahead with the wedding plans because they dont feel like traveling outside of Lagos? I mean this is a guy who has been faithful to a relationship ffor 6years? This is someone who cannot take a decision except she agrees and practically do everything with the lady in question making the lady to sacrifice everything she has even to the point of loosing teeth via an accident on her way back from giving financial assistance to the supposed man of her dreams? Would you say she is not committed to the relationship? For all these i would just say something it takes the grace of God and i still stand by what the bible has written and believe that it is only God that can give any man/woman the relationship that would bring peace that only God himself can give.

]]> By: rosemary http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-70727 rosemary Fri, 21 Sep 2007 14:36:03 +0000 http://www.dipotepede.com/2006/09/14/7-reasons-why-females-get-hurt-in-relationship/#comment-70727 yes,it helped,dat u responded to me sure helped yes,it helped,dat u responded to me sure helped

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