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By Dipo Tepede, 2 years and 7 months ago

Prostitution

Average time to read3:03 minutes aprox.

It was some years ago as I am no longer certain when I was faced with two beautiful ladies in Lagos Sheraton Hotel; one was a Briton and the other a Nigerian. The room was 519 and it commanded an air of warmth despite the harsh Air Conditioning finding its way through my St. Michael's suit. I felt at ease just looking at the red carpet room, stoned wall and rich pine furniture with tasteful finish. As the negotiations ensued, my phone began to ring; I was immediately troubled because I was about to commit the act of prostitution.More...

In writing this article, I consulted various dictionaries but I found Encarta to fully express my mind. The definition of a prostitute is;

1.
somebody paid for sexual intercourse: somebody who receives money in return for sexual intercourse or other sex acts
2.
Somebody who degrades talent for money: somebody who uses a skill or ability in a way that is considered unworthy, usually for financial gain

My knowledge of definition (1) was enacted the day I spent longer time than necessary in a friends place at the age of 11. I went on a visit to his place at 1004 flats at Victoria Island from my place in Apapa. After spending time playing Street Fighter 2 on Super Nintendo, the time was 10.00pm and I was stuck on the Island. My friend's mother pleaded with the driver to take me home. It was on my way home, that I saw some ladies standing on the road dressed differently from the way women normally dressed in the day. The short skirt always reveals their high heel shoes together with their tight blouse with spaghetti strap; this was a force of attraction that almost threw the driver off course. My curiosity was immediately quenched as the driver started the long tale of what prostitution was and who they were as he headed back on the road. The memory of this day though half-faded, still commands the needed inquisition in my soul.

Definition (2) is my main focus as I am amazed at how much one prostitute oneself for the sake of financial gain. This is considered smartness in today's world of increase poverty, challenging background and oppressive lifestyle. The act of throwing away your talent, skill and experience for another line of work in order to appreciate financially does not improve the person hence the country of the person. The act of studying Chemistry and ending up in a bank raises a lot of question on the future Nigeria. It is my belief that a country can not change if the human resources are dysfunctional, exploited and oppressed. Nigerians look at the fields that offer a better productivity and leans towards it despising their gift and callings. Who can we blame this on; the government, the employer, the employee or the job seeker?

I remembered a friend who lost an interview because she stayed in a department for 2 years despite her logical reason of love for the said department. Employers encourage prostitution because employees must prostitute to bullet proof themselves from this fast paced, ever-changing work place. You are considered by employers as slow and not ambitious for sticking to a company for a long time.

I would love to look at it from the employee/job seekers perspective. Things are hard, situation is difficult, your position remains the same, and salary has not been increased, an advert comes out that totally disregards your passions and believes but you apply because your skills could be transferable and the money is good. This is what happened to me on that fateful day in Sheraton Hotel where I was having an interview with Virgin Nigeria. As the phone disrupted our conversation, I knew I had blown the interview because the British woman's smile faded. I immediately switched it off but it was too late; her mind was set because we had been negotiating on how much I would love to collect which meant I was a good candidate for the Team Leadership Position. The Nigerian lady made an excuse for me but the negotiation stopped immediately. I was negotiating 4 times my salary with a woman who was previously enthusiastic about my stories on the scenario question and now was not interested any more because my phone rang. Looking back at the scene, I am very happy that the phone rang because I would have traded off my passion for the Aviation Industry and all that I have learnt would have been thrown away the second time for a morsel of porridge…………..

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17 comments

Gravatar #17. Dele Rabiu
22 days ago

dear sir, i do not totally agree with the contents of this article with respect to peculiar Nigerian environment. many people went to school without adequate counsel on their gift, aspirations and goal in life. sometimes you are lucky to discover later and what you do is to make a change. remember also that in our environment, majority are at survival ladder of the societal strata, hence the focus is not first among others, fulfillment but survival; how to pay for house rent, live decently, etc, hence your skill may have to be traded. we have Lawyers, Engineers, medical doctors with wasted skills in communication, Financial institutions where they will be able to meet various financial obligations demanding attention on daily basis.
however, your point true in a normal society where every one is appreciated for what he is and can freely express their skills and receive commensurate reward.
well done for your good works.
shalom.

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Gravatar #16. Tobi
1 year ago

..whilst the spheres of what your personal belief holds; i'm of the opinion that there are some ancient landmarks that cannot be removed! I think there should be an attitudinal rehabilitation somewhere,that could most appropriately be figured out yourself!
....Wit this, i can bet u'ld rebel the existence of Christ soonest, that's if u've not done that already!
...By the way, this appears the best write-up i ever read in 3 years!
Thumbs up!

Life is not what it usually seem, both from a far-off point of view and neigh.....be wise , man!

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Gravatar #15. Tobi
1 year ago

..whilst the spheres of what your personal belief ; i'm of the opinion that there are some ancient landmarks that cannot be removed! I think there should be an attitudinal rehabilitation somewhere,that could most appropriately be figured out yourself!
....Wit this, i can bet u'ld rebel the existence of Christ soonest, that's if u've not done that already!
Life is not what it usually seem, both from a far-off point of view and neigh.....be wise , man!

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Gravatar #14. Adeg
2 years and 2 months ago

nice piece.

@Cindy
...Anyone that gets scammed on singles site or otherwise really asked for it for failing to use their sense of good judgement.
...Sinners will always go to the house of God, whether they are celebrated or not. Leave them to God for convictions and restitutions if applicable.

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Gravatar #13. JO
2 years and 6 months ago

Very very nice write up, i would hv given u a 6++ if anything like dat exists but since i dont know the scoring rule here u'll hv to manage a 5+. Expecting more of such......

Hypnotizing and tought provoking, why do nigerian students wear uniforms, hmmmmmm

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Gravatar #12. Wantanaka Turundu
2 years and 7 months ago

Nice piece...keep earning them dollars focus on yourself and not on what they they think
what more can I say...I give this writer a 5

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Gravatar #11. Bembe
2 years and 7 months ago

Rated 5+. This writer uses words the way Leonardo Da Vinci used his paintbrush....Great Article!!!

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Gravatar #10. funmilola
2 years and 7 months ago

Really this is is a beautiful piece , this really touched or should i say ministered to me , well all I know is ur well of wisdom will neva dry God bless u
funmi

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Gravatar #9. cindy
2 years and 7 months ago

In our churches that should be bastions of the law and moral right we believe in a commandment that says «Thou Shalt Not Steal» but when confirmed criminals in government walk into church, even the clergymen welcome them, sing «Baba Modupe O» and give them front row seats in the «House of God».
Finally the truth, spoken from a person, who knows nothing of what was done to me, my children, my family, my home life as I once knew it. It all changed for me and as I find out from many others who were scammed by those proclaiming faith in God living in Nigeria, using Christian dating sites to scam single mothers and others. KEEPING SEEKING AND SPEAKING THE TRUTH. A very good read. I liked it alot.

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Gravatar #8. Blake
2 years and 7 months ago

The fact can simply not be contested. I give this writer a 5 without question.......

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